Teams & Relationships

“We know that conflict involves emotions. In many ways, it is all about emotions. How leaders and members control their team’s emotional climate can make the difference between successfully using task conflict or experiencing the downsides of relationship conflict.” - from ‘Building Conflict Competent Teams’ by Runde and Flanagan

John specializes in helping to create Strengths Based Relationships and Teams that thrive by being emotionally intelligent, being able to find alignment and appreciate their diversity while relating honestly, respectfully and with compassion.

He is uniquely qualified to do so.  Why?

John has the distinction of being an Organization and Relationship Systems Certified Coach (O.R.S.C.C.).  He is one of only a few hundred people Worldwide with this designation. Also, he is one of the premiere coaches in Emotional Intelligence as well as being the Executive Coach for the E.MBA Program at the University of Western Ontario.

Relationships learn how to achieve together through constructive interaction that works through differences rather than destructive conflict that demeans character and damages the relationship.

Teams are more successful and want to stay together to keep achieving first class results. In this way and in this challenging economy, the best and brightest are retained to keep the bottom line growing in the black.

Team Coaching for Sustainable Success:

Teams with high member turnover and stress have a harder time getting results.  Instead, build the kinds of teams that people want to be part of and to stay on, creating win/win/win scenarios for all concerned, right up to the Organizational level and its bottom line.  Both Organizations, and its people are happier, healthier and more successful.

Training teams in a Systems Coaching process with Emotional Intelligence training will help to create:

One of the keys to creating what we call “Emotionally Intelligent Teams” is to design and assess the team.  If it is a new team, creating ‘Team Contracts and Agreements’ help set the stage for how the team wants to operate.  For existing teams, a team assessment is employed, which is like an MRI of the team.  This helps the members understand where they are now, what is working, what they want to change and the direction they want to be heading in.  Team Coaching, in conjunction with a team assessment, is the most effective approach to achieve sustainable productivity.  On The Threshold offers two team assessments (The Team Diagnostic Assessment™ and The Leadership Circle Culture Survey™), offering the team a further chance to refine and target their goals.

Members want to be part of this kind of team and to stay on it.  Team Coaching provides a powerful mapping process to identify what the team needs to develop with strong accountability.

Relationship Coaching:

Our Relationship Coaching is about supporting people to realize that relationship can and should be something greater than the sum of the individuals in it.  When synergy exists, anything is possible!

Whether professional or personal, there is no question that relationships matter – enormously.  The successful ones soar and can last a lifetime.  But ignoring them is at our own peril and can be heartbreaking, stressful and costly.

Our relationships are one of the most important foundations in our lives.  They can get lots of attention in their early stages but as time goes on, relationship can be neglected with all the life demands that occur.  Reconnecting with what is important about your relationship and how to work together, rather than independently or at cross purposes, can give the relationship much more meaning along with stronger purpose.

Our approach to supporting a relationship is based on helping people to communicate in a way that is authentic, appreciates diversity of opinion and perspective, and creating safety for this to happen.  This often means that the people in relationship learn new skills such as how to keep their emotions balanced, how to listen to what their partner has to say, how to state their own thoughts in a clear, non-threatening way and how to find alignment together.

John holds a strong belief that Positivity is the currency of relationship.  Learning how to make more frequent deposits of positivity to your ‘relationship bank account’ is key to having a successful relationship that lasts.  And learning how to keep the withdrawals to a minimum is just as important – if a relationship has more withdrawals than deposits, their ‘account’ is quickly overdrawn and the damage keeps piling up.  At work, relationship breakdown can impact performance for the individuals and the Organization.  At home, a deteriorating relationship that is ignored or unaddressed ultimately threatens its very existence.

As a relationship coach, John provides powerful, practical and heartfelt support for a relationship to look at itself in new ways.  Together, they can create a greater agreement of what it is important, how to deal with challenges and how to reconnect to fulfillment in their relationship.

The specific areas of expertise that John brings to Relationship Coaching include helping a relationship to become more emotionally intelligent and to resolve their conflict more constructively. Conflict can actually help a relationship grow and reach higher levels of connection!  However, without help two people may get stuck and experience conflict in a more divisive and threatening way.  John can help them have a much different experience so that their emotions and conflict experience can work for them instead of against them.  As an Organization and Relationship Systems Certified Coach, John is uniquely qualified to do just this!

Why wait for breakdown of a relationship – either personal or professional ?